Commitment Creates.

meandkimosaAt the moment of commitment the Universe conspires to assist you.
Greetings Creative Ones!

Celebrating a rich, colorful   and transformative retreat in Costa Rica a few weeks ago.  Wow, it was my first international retreat and collaboration and it was full of diving into the unknown, trusting my gut, finding my voice honoring my self and many other rich lessons. 

I could not have done it without the support ofYogapainting others, or trusting my vision and my gut to just go for it even though we didn’t have all the details worked out entirely. I had to trust the creative process and go with the flow! Pura Vida!  No one has ever done a paint, surf and yoga retreat in Costa Rica.  What a fun, colorful, inspiring 5-days.

Do you know the one thing that you need to create the life and business of your dreams? 

COMMITMENT.  You need to be clear on your intentions, commit to seeing them through and to surrender to the creative process.  You gotta show up.  Face your fears.  There will be challenges.

 

It will bring up any doubt and purify your vision.  And you will be all the better lulupaintsosafor it.  Say no to distractions, toxic people, behaviors and patterns that test your commitment to your vision. What you focus on expands. That heat and pressure you feel? Don’t’ sweat it.  It is magic in the making.  Its the alchemical creative fire. It is what transforms, what was just an idea into a real tangible experience of your vision in action.


Where are you hiding out?

What can you commit to?

Where do you need to say no to other peoples expectations of you?

Where can you say yes to your heart?
Are you willing to take the journey to what you want?

There is still time to join me on Martha’s Vineyard next month!  Join me for seven days of painting, movement, opening up to live transitions with clarity, grace and ease while unlocking your creativity, authentic voice, freedom, power and potential.

from my fiery heart to yours,

melissasig152

A Firey Hot Love Letter to My Clients.

Love is like a friendship caught on fire.  In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes coals, deep-burning and unquenchable.

- Bruce Lee

Today I wrote a love letter to those of you brave to enter the client kingdom of creative transformation that is Fire Tree Studios.  After 10 years of coaching, mentoring, teaching, facilitating and training clients and students I have evolved the most effective way to engage with me at Fire Tree… and to get the very best of me and what the Fire Tree Method has to offer.

This letter is also inspired by my longtime mentor, Dorothy Divack, my work with Randi Buckley in her incredible course, Healthy Boundaries for Kind People.   Her next session starts Friday!  (to listen to my interview with her on Fire Tree LIVE click here) And also Leoni Dawson’s brilliant blog post on How Not to Get Fired as My Client which I found equally hilarious… as inspiring.

Please know that this love letter’s purpose is to serve you in the highest loving context and comes from the depths of my heart and soul and will be required reading for all current and future clients in any of my programs:

Dear Creative Wise Wo/man,Music-Girl-First-Love-Fire-Wallpaper

I am so excited to begin our collaboration!  Our relationship is undoubtedly a divine appointment and I want you to know that I hold it as sacred, creative, life changing work.  We will move mountains together.  We will open ourselves up to create miracles. We will transverse through transformative creative fires and into the alchemical gold that is our potential, together.  Please know that I whole-heartedly support you in claiming your authentic truth, power, vision and dreams.

I invite you to read and agree to the following guidelines as how to best make use of collaboration and work together.  Feel into each one with your heart, mind, and body.  Let them enter every cell of your being like a prayer and sacred intention that guides you into your deeper knowing.

  • Be willing and courageous to look beyond your excuses.  They are what hold us back and keep you ‘safe’ and sometimes stuck, in your current expression and comfort zone. If you want to evolve into your next level of growth, please be willing to gently be curious about your resistance and what is no longer serving you now.
  • Be brave and willing to feel all of your feelings (the juice of your transformative fire) and breath through any discomfort to experience release and relief, let old baggage go and open yourself up to joy.
  • Be fully willing to commit, implement and take action on all coaching opportunities guidance, tools and experiences. I am showing up fully to meet you in the most powerful way. My heartfelt desire is for you to meet me there too.  I will refrain from chasing you down for missed appointments, payments or other commitments.  You will get one notification from me or someone on my team. If you are unable to respond within 24 hours our agreement will go into termination.  This may seem severe and it is necessary as I hold your success (as you definite it) as very very severe.
  • Be on time to all scheduled sessions and retreats.  This is for you.  This honors you and me and our commitment together (and the group if applicable).  Of course there is always room for flexibility if needed and what is good for you is often good for me too. I honor flow.  Please keep in mind, if this feels like it becomes a pattern; please know that I will address it with honesty and compassion.
  • Desire to be self-accountable to all of our agreements and communicate or re-negotiate when an agreement can not be honored.  Agreements are designed to support you in thriving in your optimum potential. They also honor my needs so you get the very best of me and my work.
  •  Please honor all of your financial commitments and timelines with me.  This is a testament to your purpose, intentions and priorities and our agreement is the container for your transformation.  They are like guideposts holding you accountable to your vision.  Honor this structure and it honors you, the investment is eternal.  Trust me on this.
  • You are responsible for the energy you bring to this experience.  If you feel that this investment is going to gift you some miracle cure you are grossly mistaken.  This will challenge every cell of your being to grow into the woman that you are destined to be.  It is my sacred honor and grateful heart to support you on this journey.  You will get out of it, what you consistently put into it.  The clients that receive the most benefit make our work together a daily priority.
  • Please be kind and compassionate with yourself.  Our conscious collaboration and relationship exchange is re-wiring your experience of relationship on a cellular level.   This will root within you a foundation for equal relationship in all of your life’s relationships.  It requires honesty with yourself and me ( and my honesty to you) so please be kind and extra gentle within yourself as we navigate and birth a new way of being…together.  This will open and expand your heart to hold a love within and without greater than you have ever known. I guarantee it.
  • Please be kind and compassionate with me and everyone on my team or in our group if this applies.  As we move through blocks, unprocessed emotions, dis-empowered thoughts and feelings there can be a tendency to want to project this on to our relationship or others.  This urge is totally normal.  Reactive behavior is not. If this does come up for you, let’s talk about it.  It is a sacred gateway and if used consciously can provide an incredible opening into your greater expression of Self.
  • You are responsible for your experience and results. If you feel you are lacking something from me or need something I have yet to provide, it is up to you to speak up and ask for it.  This space is for you to empower your own voice. Although I am very intuitive, I also leave ample space for you to intuit your own needs and desires in order to be fully self-responsible and step into your full power and potential.
  • The Creative Process is active, alive and leads in our work together.  This lends itself to a very dynamic and engaging experience where you will learn to trust yourself, the Creative Life Force and Divine nature of all things.  The Fire Tree Method is a framework that guides our process and yet the Creative Life Force leads.  It keeps our focus on the power and potential in the present moment and life becomes an active ingredient in our mutual transformation.
  • Email is always the best way to communicate with me.  Please know that I will get back to you within 24-48hrs. And sometimes I will be unable to respond to every email. Please know that I read them all, so if you need to send and email update for pure processing and sacred witnessing, know that I *see* you. If you need immediate assistance or request a fire session as offered in our agreement, please call 512.524.0687.
  • I am unable to tolerate negativity or abuse in my life or business.  I am unable to work with people who throw bombs or any negative energy toward me.  If you show up in this way, I will be unable to continue our work together and your agreement with me will be terminated without a refund.  I am unable to engage with toxic behaviors of any kind and will gracefully remove it from my Universe.  My intention is to create a safe, loving space that fosters creativity, full-self expression, and the expansion of consciousness, abundance and self-empowerment FOR ALL. If you resonate with this, great—let’s party. If not, my apologies we are not a fit at this time.
  • I am a very wise, creative, compassionate loving intuitive guide and facilitator with years of training, experience and my own personal spiritual awakening.  While I am a trained psychotherapist, I am not your therapist or your mother …or father.  We may strengthen your inner team during our work together on the road through spiritual, psychological and emotional maturity and it is your job to grow this within yourself and get additional support if needed. I have a ton of referrals of great folks and a team of people that support me.  Just ask.
  • Please refrain from copying my work. Thrilled that it inspires you, and if you want to share with your peeps, please quote and reference me in full creative copyright ethics.  Practice good creative Karma.  Honor your own divine creativity, abundance—that eternal source-full creative well of yours. I know you have big things to create, let me support you in that.  Or enroll in my training program and license The Fire Tree Method curriculum. You don’t have to re-create the wheel can gain the experiential knowing, training, freedom and license to express it in your own YOUnique way.  Join our team and inner circle.  We are transforming the world one paint stroke at a time.
  • If this resonates with you, at this time –wonderful lets create magic and miracles.  IF not, that is OK too.  I love you anyway.  I trust that if it does…we are destined to collaborate and be/do/create great things in this lovely world together.

If you agree to these guidelines, I guarantee our work together will be profound and the most crucial investment of time, money and energy of your life.

Let’s rock it together and set the world a flame.

With love, appreciation and deepest respect,

melissa-sig2
p.s. If this letter inspires you to rock it!  Let’s jam. I am currently opening my private mentoring practice to take on a few aligned clients.  And offering a Spring Special for 6 introductory sessions through May 1st.  Contact me for further inquiry.  512.524.0687.

Feel Your Way to Freedom.

 

Fret not the baptism of your tears!

For they are the watering of your flowering Soul.

 - Melissa D’Antoni

Last week I found myself bulldozing through some uncomfortable emotions that made me literally crawl in my skin.  Nothing I could do could distract me me enough from feeling their intensity and the messages that were communicating.  You know the slippery ones that percolate grief and anger and challenge all your beliefs about yourself…perhaps of others and cause extreme discomfort and pain. It was so gut-wrenchingly painful I did not want to be in my body. For a few days I felt a huge hole in my heart and traveled through a darkness I that while in it felt like I had never known before.  I was able to witness myself squirm around, wanting to intellectualize (which is where I go when emotion feels to overwhelming) make a story of it…analysis paralysis and even turned to all my trusted tools and practices for self care.

Nothing was working. The grief grew in size like a dark black hole that seemed to swallow my insides and want to spit me out into a world I unwillingly was destined to go.  That is what it feel like to be taken by the wave of deep despair and what I realized is that no story, no spiritualist mantra, nothing I knew could keep me from feeling this pain.  The only way out is through.  Funny that the week before a client sent me a new acronym for fear that she heard:

F E A R… Feel Emotions And Rise!

I had to be still…to surrender to it’s invitation, silently beckoning me to feel it all and then trust that I will come back up again, revived and renewed from a very different place.  So I sat and cried for a few days straight. I let myself wail like a sobbing child, giving myself the freedom to exaggerate it as much I could to be sure that I expressed every tear, every cell of grief that I had just tapped into.  Fully surrendering, not knowing when it would end, how long it would last or where it would take me. I just felt all of my feelings….and then after a few days of totally surrender…it shifted. As if I had cleared years and layers of unprocessed grief, anger and despair that finally after years of chipping a way and opening up the flood gates of my emotional body…were ready to be set free ..and opened up to a new me.  Here is a painting I expressed as the tide of grief began to shift…

 

I began to feel lighter, mophotore clear, more empowered as I opened up to even more joy within myself. My physical body rushed with life-force as if every cell of being danced…thank you! We can move again. My heart physically felt as if it had cracked wide open and I felt the fresh wound in my chest of a heart that was expanding.

This baptism of tears, brought on a new level of awakening, of forgiveness, of compassion for myself and others, for our fragile life experience and the tender hearts that we carry.  This live is so amazing, so precious and so divinely orchestrated that I will never doubt, not for a moment why we experience what we do and the purpose that lies within as well as the thread of miracles that guides us through.  Never.

It still comes in waves as it lightens and flows.  And how perfect that on the cusp of Spring I am given this beautiful reminder to feel it all or loose it all.

We resist pain in our modern culture and are mostly numb to it out of habit and legacy.  Due to conditioning yes, and partly just part of the human experience.   I know this very truth even years after exploring the expressive arts that our feelings are our well of insight, they are our intuitive guides taking us within and leading the way toward our self-realization one breath at a time.

So do you seek freedom? Joy? Abundance? Love? Flow?

Give yourself the greatest gift of all which is the courage and bravery to go into the unknown well that is your self and feel your way through to a brighter, newer more freer you.

with all my love…

XO

melissa-sig2

 

 

 

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